Overcoming Obstacles

So what does it take to get past your current hurdles, how do you get back on the grind after a hit?

What do you do when things get rough? Undoubtedly, I can almost stake my life on the fact that at some point in your life, you are going to encounter failure. Life is going to knock you down. Life is going to try and knock the wind out of your sails. Some things are going to happen that you didn’t anticipate. No matter how much you may have prepared or planned or anticipated, sometimes Murphy’s Law is going to take over. I'm talking about those moments where something has gone so wrong. you are swirling around thinking what just happened here? How do you pick yourself up after that?

Sometimes Murphy's Law is going to take over

Take stock

It’s at those points that you need to stop and take stock of your situation. How did you get there? Take a second to examine what brought you there. What part did you play in getting there? What lessons have you learnt? What will you do or not do the next time you are faced with a similar situation? Why did you not listen to you gut instinct before? Will you know how to listen the next time? What boundaries will you put in place from now?

Let it out

Take some time to "cry", but don’t stay there too long. If you need to spend sometime grieving over a loss or feeling sorry for yourself, do it. Go away, pray, meditate, scream or do what you have to do and get it out of your system. Allow yourself to feel whatever it is you are feeling without burying it. Deal with it, grow and go through it because if you don’t deal with it, it will probably show up down the road at some point in your life in one facet or the other. When you are feeling like this, remember this too shall pass. But don’t get comfortable there. It’s a personal thing but you will know when its time to wind it up and shut it down. Don’t waste precious time, you won’t get it back. Then:

Let it go

Forgive yourself and make the decision to move on. After you’ve had that time to moan and feel sorry for yourself and telling everybody your sob story. Then it’s time to move on. It’s time for you to focus on the future and what’s coming.

Separate what has happened, from who you are.

This is the point where you have to make that decision to say, you are going to get out of the rut you are in. Don’t allow your emotions to take control you. Remind yourself you are your own rescue. Separate what has happened from who you are. Don’t keep rehashing the past events and putting yourself in the guilt trap.

Build yourself, edify your spirit and get support. Work on yourself. Read inspirational books, listen to audiobooks, podcasts, get onto YouTube and get that playlist on. Get around people who make you feel good about yourself and will empower you. Get in the company of people who are doing what you want to do and learn. It helps you to stretch your mind toward possibilities and also they give you guidance on how to get to where you want to go. Help somebody else, it helps you forget your own drama and can sometimes put your own situation into perspective.

Take action

Accept responsibility that you have to take action to move in the right direction. Get active. Go back to that thing that failed and assess if you want to proceed with it, if so then work on it again. Nothing worth it, is ever easy. Change your strategy if you have to. If it’s time to cut your losses, then start on something else. Work on it every day. Bit by bit. With consistent work, that thing that once seemed like a mountain, will seem so distant when you look back after a while.

Remember failing at something is not the end. Your struggles will develop your strength. Don’t give up!